Old Lady Blues

The 50's may be the new 40's but just what does that mean?

It means we are expected to do more, look better and still be old.
We have to recognize our mortality and deal with the changes that are happening to us through the aging process.

Well screw that! I am going to have a fit and fall back in it. That is just another way to say wallow in your own depression and anxiety. Not a healthy attitude but even the best spin doctors get tired and need to whine from time to time.

The Mediator

I have been a mediator all my life. Personally, I think it is a personality type. Some people bully, others cry and some want everyone to get a piece of the pie. That's me. "Why can't we all just get along?" Because we are a coddled, selfish society.

Not everyone gets spoiled but as far as the spoiled brats are concerned, it's all about entitlement.

You know what makes me crazy? I mean besides old age and mental-pause? It's how people are always saying you don't look 49, or she looks good for her age, or you can tell she must have been really pretty when she was young.

It's like saying to a fat girl, "You have such a pretty face."
I don't see it as an insult. Just a very shallow view of a person.

One of my childhood memories is a family picnic at our house.
My Dads' brothers, wives and kids were all there and I heard my Uncle Edgar say to me "Your Mom was sure a looker in her day". She must have been all of 45 or so. He said it in front of my Mom too and she smiled. Eight kids later and a blue collar pay check each week, she didn't have nice clothes or get her hair done anymore.

Jessica Tandy, is one of my favorite actors. I didn't really know she existed until she was older and did so many great films. Now I see older films and recognize her in them and she was a beautiful woman, at every age. But most of all she was a superb actress. My Mom was a superb woman. She worked hard, cared for everyone young and old, family, other relatives and strangers.

I am 49 years old. Born in the summer of 1957.

It occurs to me, that I had better be writing this for myself because "Hollywood" isn't all that keen on starring roles for older female actors.
Or is it because no one wants to go to a movie that stars an older actress.

It's just not hot. No box office appeal. Who wants to see an old lady having sex....It's just a sad and saggy sight. This may change a bit as baby boomers get even older, but I doubt it.

We all like to see pretty things and have given complete control to a market driven society. Who has the money and who spends it. This is a good philosophy for business not so good when you are trying to teach children respect for their elders.

The hell you say! Crazy old woman with her own blog. What is the world coming to you? Anyone can write anything they want about anything these days. Yeah for me! Keeping up with the times at my age.

Why is it we are so hung up on youth? Cause it's pretty and gives us a since of immortality.

Why are we so obsessed with celebrities looking bad? Cause they look so perfect most of the time. And it's like an accident on the highway, we all slow down to take a look or look away because we don't want to see the possibilities.

You might say I am working through my mid-life crisis online. Or could it be mental-pause? Probably all of the above. The truth is, we are all going to get old and wrinkled if we are lucky enough to live that long. I know there are people who don't feel like that would be lucky but you need an attitude adjustment.

Here, I am going to record my aging process and how I deal with it. I think it will help me to get my thoughts out of my head and on-line.
Hopefully it will help anyone who reads it, whether you are young and don't comprehend aging or you are older and been there done that.

Let's just call me Marilyn. Not my real name of course, but I have gone by Marilyn in the past, but that is another story I will tell you sometime.

For now I will post my thoughts and feelings about aging. This of course is tied into my life experiences so you will get to know more about me.
I will examine what effect my experiences and choices in life have on who I am as I grow older.